Assalaamu Alaykum,

We asked several brothers and sisters who were recently married to share their insights, experiences, and reality checks regarding marriage…responses will be posted periodically under “advice from” inshaAllah.  If you’d like to share something with us, please send over an email or leave a comment.

Getting married.. where oh where to start.. I think my best advice would be to out due each other in kindness towards each other and others. Try to put his feelings before yours, try to keep your in laws happy before yourself, and InshAllah you will be successful! Also, marriage is not always 50/50-most days you will put in 90% and he will put in 10% and other days he may put in 75% and you only put in 25%. Accept that men are immature-they are going to play video games to wii hours of the night and its going to be very annoying, he will pick his friends over you some days and thats even more annoying-but its okay. The sooner we learn and accept this and move on the happier we and our husbands will be. Allah puts us in situations with people that we may not always agree with or like but it’s our challenge and dealing with it could be our way to Jannah. Last, the grass is not greener on the other side-its fake grass.